The Guiding Hand To Happiness We Ignore

Here’s a brutal truth. We all have a constant and powerful guide to tell us exactly what we need to do to build happiness and success. Yet we ignore it. I sure as heck do. Bet you do too. Here it is.
There are two aspects of my life right now that are making me very unhappy. One is a relationship which needs my focus, patience and engagement. The other is my weight and fitness. Both are absolutely within my power to take action on, and to make fast progress. I also know that making a start on each would have an immediate, big and positive impact on my life… on my energy, optimism, peace of mind, momentum and happiness.
And yet I do nothing. I look at these two issues as if a spectator. Removed. Watching. Waiting. Yet motionless. Why? Here lies that brutal truth. Does it hold true for you?
YOU RESIST THE MOST WHAT YOU NEED THE MOST.
My very essence just refuses to tackle either. I do everything I can to ignore each, and stop myself starting to deal with them.
I’m a capable, driven person. I achieve most goals I set.
Yet on the very big ticket items, the stuff I know at my core would revolutionise my happiness, I just don’t seem to be able to get myself moving. I’m stuck. Like in a really bad dream. Where the bear is chasing you. And you just can’t run forward. You’re in slow motion. It’s like a hurricane is blowing in your face and no matter how much you struggle, you are stuck to the spot.
I feel claustrophobic just writing this. My heart is racing. I have to loosen my collar.
You resist the most what you need the most. I know what I need to do – what my absolute number 1 and 2 priorities are. How do I know? Because I am resisting the fricken bejesus out of doing them.
WHAT ABOUT YOU? WHAT ARE YOU RESISTING THE MOST RIGHT NOW?
Think about it. Face reality. Get clarity. I bet you’ll find that these are the things you need to do the most in your life right now. Yet you don’t do them.
If I’m wrong, tell me your secret. Please.
If I am right, then join me in a new resolve. To take action. To take action. To take action.
Enough already. I need to breathe.
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