Don’t Be An Idiot. Resign With Grace.

You’ve got a new job! Well done.

Now, don’t spoil it all by making a hash of your exit from where you are now. I know, you are excited. It’s hard to stay focused on the old gig, when everything is ‘oh so cool’ about the new one.

But remember, the ‘old gig’ was the ‘new gig’ not so long ago, and how you behave on your way out will affect your brand, your references and your future employability. Trust me on that.

It’s true that often you get shown the door as soon as you resign. Also true, some employers behave appallingly to exiting staff. But no matter. You be the better person, leaving with every loose end tied up and your head held high.

These rules of resignation will give you the road map to do just that:

1. GIVE FAIR NOTICE

Sure, your offer letter of 5 years ago says you need only give 2 weeks notice. But you were a trainee then and now a team leader. You know you will cause your employer huge issues if you leave at such short notice. Don’t do it. Provide enough time for them to get their business covered. It’s the professional thing to do.

2. DO THE DEED GRACEFULLY

The actual resignation, I mean. Plan how you will do it. Set a formal meeting. Be polite. Accentuate the positives. Be firm, but humble. Show appreciation. Thank your boss.

3. DON’T BLAB

To everyone else, I mean. Either before you resign or after. Until your boss agrees a communication plan. In my experience, 90% of ‘resignees’ fail right here. Just have to tell everyone about ‘my great new job’. It’s selfish. Destructive. You need to be collaborative in helping convey the message at the right time, in the right way, to the right people.

4. OFFER TO TRAIN A REPLACEMENT

And mean it. And do it. Well.

5. SHARE THE INSIDE STUFF

You know what I mean. The little nuggets. Like your computer password. Or which contact in the department really makes the decisions.

6. DON’T DESTABILIZE

Resist the temptation to vent, to criticize, to undermine and to pour negativity like a trail of dog-poo around the office ‘because you know better and you are leaving’. It’s not a good look, and it makes you seem ridiculous. Really.

7. DON’T SLACK OFF

This is critical. If you ‘go walkabout’, start being lazy, come in late, avoid your admin and generally make it clear you have ‘checked out’, everyone will see that and everyone who counts will remember it. Forever. And that is going to hurt you one day. Count on it.

8. TAKE NO CHEAP SHOTS

At your boss. Your colleagues. The business. Anything. It’s weak. And petty. And very ‘prattish.’

9. THE EXIT INTERVIEW

Cooperate. Don’t be a wiseass by refusing to participate. Be thoughtful and constructive. Resist the temptation to preach or criticize.

10. DON’T FLIRT WITH COUNTER-OFFER DISCUSSIONS IF YOU HAVE NO INTENTIONS OF STAYING

Pursuing that conversation just so you can enjoy having your ego stroked is just not nice.

11. WRAP IT UP

Close as many of your projects as you can. I had a woman once who left the business with her record-ever quarter. She left with her head held high, and we paid her bonus gladly. Twelve months later when her new job turned out to be a dud, we hired her back.

12. THANK EVERYONE WHO HELPED YOU ON YOUR WAY UP

It will mean a lot to them if you do, and they will remember it if you don’t. And not in a good way.

13. SAY GOODBYE PROPERLY TO EVERYBODY

Personally, not by email from your phone when you are out the door. Shake hands. Offer kisses. Swap contact details. Keep doors open.

14. STAY AN AMBASSADOR AFTER YOU HAVE GONE

Don’t deride your former company or colleagues. Amazing how many people do that. It’s such an unpleasant trait. Never reflects well on you. Never. Ever. So why do it?

Having run and owned businesses for 25 years, I guess I have been on the receiving end of a huge number of resignations. And it stuns me how destructive to themselves some people can be. Petty and vindictive. Or just lazy and sloppy. And yet, so many times, six months later, when their dream job did not turn out so well, they want to come back. Or they need a reference. Hmmm…

I have hired back literally dozens of ex-employees who behaved impeccably on the way out. In those cases the door is always open. But many more have sullied their exit, behaving appallingly and burning customers and colleagues along the way.

And to them, the door is closed, forever.

Don’t be a jerk. Resign with grace.

This post first appeared on The Savage Truth